Couples Therapy
In-Person in Portland and Online throughout Oregon
Rebuild your bond. Recreate your “safe haven” in each other.
You love each other—but lately, it feels like something’s missing. Conversations turn into arguments, silences grow longer, and you wonder how you became more like roommates or opponents than partners.
Maybe you're adjusting to life as new parents, juggling separate demanding careers, or stuck in patterns that leave one or both of you feeling unseen. Whatever brought you here, you're craving more connection, more ease, more us.
At Reverent Relational Therapy, I help couples reconnect with each other—not by forcing surface-level fixes, but by gently unpacking the deeper emotions and unmet needs beneath the tension.
The strongest relationships aren't the ones without problems—they're the ones where both partners are committed to solving them together.
How I Work With Couples
I take a calm, nonjudgmental, and emotionally attuned approach to couples therapy. We won’t just talk about logistics—we’ll explore the feelings, the fears, and the needs that often go unspoken.
My work draws primarily from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman Method, with supportive integration of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and trauma-informed insight, especially for partners who carry unresolved past pain.
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EFT helps couples move from conflict and withdrawal to safety and intimacy. We'll look at your interaction cycles—those moments when you get stuck—and gently explore what each partner is really feeling underneath. This allows you to speak and hear each other differently, in ways that build trust and closeness.
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This research-based approach explores the specific patterns that keep you stuck—whether that’s escalating conflict, emotional distance, or unresolved hurt— and strengthens relationships by improving communication, deepening emotional connection, and building lasting trust.
Using Gottman tools like the Four Horsemen framework, love maps, and emotion coaching, I’ll help you and your partner learn how to turn toward each other with curiosity instead of criticism.
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Every partner brings their own internal world into the relationship—parts of them shaped by past experiences, roles in their family, and emotional survival strategies. With IFS, we explore how these parts show up in your relationship, especially during moments of conflict or disconnection.
This approach helps you move out of blame and toward empathy—so instead of fighting each other, you can start working together to understand what’s happening inside.
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If one or both of you carry trauma, big emotions can feel overwhelming—or numbness can take over. I bring a steady, grounded presence to help both partners feel safe enough to be vulnerable.
We will explore past attachment ruptures and injuries inside and outside of the relationship and work to heal these wounds through repair.
Couples Therapy Is Right For You If:
You feel emotionally distant, stuck in the same fights, or unsure how to reconnect
You’re new parents struggling to adjust to the changes in your relationship
One or both of you are caretakers or are in a highly successful and demanding career which has caused you to lose touch with each other amid responsibilities
You love each other, but feel misunderstood, unseen, or resentful
You’re navigating trust issues, transitions or infidelity
Let’s Reconnect What’s Been Lost
Every relationship hits rough patches. But with the right support, repair and renewal are possible. If you and your partner are ready to find your way back to each other, I’m here to help.